Stay-at-home moms feel guilty for being exhausted and worry they’re not keeping the house neat enough or taking good enough care of the kids, even when their husbands aren’t complaining. You won't change my view. Part time hours on full pay? Simply because childcare for 2 under 2 will be extortionate. A pp who hadn't read my posts suggested I never mentioned SAHDs. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). My employer was happy for me to do part time hours on full pay (which was great) but not I have more workload and I need to do full time hours plus travel (I’m still bfing). How To Ask Someone How They’re Actually Doing Right Now. A narcissistic husband is all about control. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. I had stated at the outset that a SAHD is fine the same as a SAHM. Hello! Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. If your husband isn’t 100% enthusiastic about you staying at home, then it won’t work. I forgot we were in 2020 where children as just commodities like dogs, to be raised by someone elseYou are kidding right? It does sound like it will cause massive problems in your relationship though.Are you sure you want another child with this man?? *Don’t feel sorry for me. My family also lives an hour away and generally if there is a party down that way, I go with the kids. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. Hello! And that was another position she took pride in. That he was going to be someone I could laugh with, have romantic dinners with, walk on the beach with, and enjoy the good times with, but he was also going to be someone who would stay by my side when I was at my worst. Part time seems a reasonable compromise though. I understand how you feel but it is very, very unwise to leave a flexible, well paid job to be a SAHM. Let’s talk a little bit about how support gets into place and how long it takes. Refuse-to-Work Spouse: The kids need me here. I feel like he is hanging over me all the time, telling me what I can or can’t do and why I am always wrong. Staying at home is a lifestyle that both parents have to support. When I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husband and I never really sat down to hash out what would happen after she was born. Take this survey - £50 voucher to be won, How have you shown your appreciation for the NHS? Going back full time because you can't stand being home sounds like you don't enjoy mother hood. S/he asks nicely, begs, gets angry, hopes s/he's planted a seed and gives it time. where children as just commodities like dogs, to be raised by someone else, where a woman is seen as GIVING 50% to the relationship by raising a family and supporting the household (OR SAHDs, for those that want to pounce, but on this post I am responding to the devaluing of SAHMs), it's no longer a case where morals and family values and good old fashioned common sense is timelessAnd where both want be a sahp? For me, it meant I was bound to our small apartment with our overactive toddler and still unpredictable infant. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. ... Subject: WWYD: Husband won't let me work part-time. Can you move sideways for a bit? My friends hate to come by and spend time with me because he gets jealous. It seems like you may have subconsciously be drawn to a critical partner who withdraws under stress. Husband Won't Let His Wife Be a SAHM—Say What? I forgot we were in 2020 where children as just commodities like dogs, to be raised by someone else, where a woman is seen as GIVING 50% to the relationship by raising a family and supporting the household (OR SAHDs, for those that want to pounce, but on this post I am responding to the devaluing of SAHMs), it's no longer a case where morals and family values and good old fashioned common sense is timeless. Yesterday, USA Today posted a column on their website, entitled Why I Won’t Let My Wife Quit Her Job. I would never judge a SAHM because of those threads alone, equally because of those threads I’d never judge a WOHM. But we're happy to step up and help each other. How about you both drop a day? And treated like a dog?You are utterly ridiculous. Op should invest a couple of years into her child before she goes to school. But when they go all day everyday they are probably exhausted and missing home. I'm wondering what the responses would be if the roles were reversed on this thread.I think the decision for anyone to be a SAHP needs to be a joint decision. When I did.Then your argument doesnt make sense. Where you got that she would do it without discussing it, I don't know. Also children are often run down and poorly at nursery. Statements like that do nothing but make women feel like shit. You change your life for your kids It's like parents who say they hate being home and work for their sanity. What does that even mean? I was married to a man for 15 years and it started with not letting me see my friends or family. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. My ex was working full time the money wasnt great, eventually i said i had had enough and wanted to work again. That being said, I have a specific job that could be done remotely. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we have a 1.5 year old together. So a bit of background. My employer was happy for me to do part time hours on full pay (which was great) but not I have more workload and I need to do full time hours plus travel (I’m still bfing). SAHM to me means no more fancy daycare for the 2 year old. I think this is a family decision rather than an individual one. He say the situation is making him ill. We could afford to live on my husbands salary but would have to make cut backs but my husband likes nice holidays etc. Perhaps he needs to apply for a higher paid job and you need to apply for something that is less stressful. I know we could afford it with me not working but he says it's not fair to him. Raising children is so much more than being with them 24/7. I don’t want to be around my husband any more and need help getting out of this mess of a relationship. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Her husband wanted her to quit working and be a stay at home mom to their oldest son over 10+ yrs ago. One parent should be available. Even if a child is in nursery 8 - 6 for 5 days a week that’s only 50 hours out of a week of 168 hours. I suggest that you examine the dynamic between you and your husband more closely. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. I was referring to posters who said she should just quit. If being a SAHM has always been your dream, then you should've married someone who was supportive of your dream. How many times have we read things like ‘I work full time, I allocate all my AL to the school holidays, my husband won’t take time off if the kids are sick because he thinks his job is more important, my husband won’t shop, cook or clean and today I’m home sick and he refused to do the drop off’. Small children is a hard stage? Having a child in nursery full time would not make financial sense. By . To be repulsed at this outcome? Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines. Meanwhile, her husband had taken a liking to talking to other women and having various spells of infidelity. I really don’t know where to go from here. However I don’t think it’s really fair to expect to give up work and your husband to work FT. ... She tried to not let me sleep in the bedroom, which ended up with her now residing in the guest room. Stay-at-home moms feel guilty for being exhausted and worry they’re not keeping the house neat enough or taking good enough care of the kids, even when their husbands aren’t complaining. Subject: Re:Husband will not let me be a SAHM. This is page 12 of 22 (This thread has 544 messages.). The working spouse tries everything to get the spouse with Refuse-to-Work Syndrome to look for a job. @Shadyshadow that’s what I meant - on MN there’s a high proportion of threads where the woman works and does everything, so it’s easy to see why lots of women reading and posting on MN want to be SAHM. He works and I agreed to stay at home since the birth of our son. I find that incredibly sad! If your husband doesn't earn enough to support you two and potential kids, then it doesn't make sense that you'd fight to stay home, knowing there won't be enough money for that. @SueEllenMishke yes they are being raised by the nursery. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. In at least 3 posts.So it's a game of dibs?Who says they are going to be sahp, first wins? Can you both drop a day? Oh and I wish people would give over with shit about kids of working parents “being raised by someone else”. I feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversed. As a result, over time there's potential for her identity to be very caught up in being a mom and/or a wife, and she loses her individual identity. What was decided before you had the 18 month old? I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. My husband said I'm the only one with a problem so he won't go. I wanted to stay home with our daughter after she was born but my husband insisted I go back to work so I did. It’s equally clear why those threads may encourage women to be WOHP. Chaunie Brusie. Who's right? I don't understand pp - one person leaving their job shouldn't be a unilateral decision in a household. Baby. My family also lives an hour away and generally if there is a party down that way, I go with the kids. It will put a lot more pressure on the wage earner to be the only wage earner. Baby. When I did. Who's right? Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. You have taken it upon yourself to change the narrative. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. Where do I get one of those? Staying at home can be a long term solution to a short term problem.I'm not understanding the part time work/full time pay scenario - sounds great! Well the price of childcare isn't cheap. We have massive arguments about it. FMD. He HATES it! I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). Subject: Re:Husband will not let me be a SAHM. My husband works crazy hard hours so that I can be a SAHM, and when he isn't working he wants to take a break. There is a possible happy medium to this, as many stay-at-home moms have discovered: earn income from home as a part-time … Yes, got forbid the woman takes equal financial responsibility for the child she is an equal parent of.Yes, god forbid the woman takes equal responsibility for her children and wants to contribute by raising a family. Nevertheless, it's a big step to go from the higher earner to SAHM and if your DH doesn't want to suddenly be the sole breadwinner that's understandable too.You need to work through this together and find a solution that suits both of you. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. The child can play and have a fun. If he’s not happy to compromise and neither are you then it may end up being a dealbreaker. I have explained this to my husband but he does not want me to leave my job as it is flexible but doesn’t understand the stress and desperation to spend more time with my daughter. @katharinaRosalieNo they are getting an education! I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). He said I will ruin our lives as we will have no money, have to get a cheaper car. No he cant stop you leaving your job.But I would leave dp, if he just decided to cut our household budget because he wanted to be part time or stay at home.I am the higher earner and no way would I be financially reliant on my husband or partner.He cant stop you. I said if you have no choice it can't be helped. He might enjoy some extra family time too. Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. I have a father.....so that's not a spot my husband needs to fill for me. It's perfectly acceptable either way! NOWHERE has the OP suggested she will just quit or force her husband to provide for her (the horror! Husband Doesn't Respect Me Because I'm a SAHM. Even if a child is in nursery 8 - 6 for 5 days a week that’s only 50 hours out of a week of 168 hours. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. yes they are being raised by the nursery.No they aren't. A bit of nursery is great. It should be a natural urge for him.Huh? The additional workload will bring a large pay rise. You noticed that animals in the wild keep their young with them. By . A gift to see that my husband was going to be there for me no matter what. Again part time is great. A pp who hadn't read my posts suggested I never mentioned SAHDs. Idk if you're financially dependent on your husband but if so get your ducks in a row my friend. As it is right now, I run myself ragged doing for everyone else and never for myself. No man wants to have sex with a wife who is constantly mothering him. And how come all the men can afford to work, but all women have those tiny little jobs paying minimum wages? To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. They have to go. My husband is my partner, not my superior. He said I will ruin our lives as we will have no money, have to get a cheaper car. My husband and I have almost twenty years of wrongdoing between each other. Published May 6, 2015. Published May 6, 2015. I need o calculate now but my childminder (2 DC full time) certainly doesn't get paid more than 10% of my personal income. Older kiddo is already in elementary school. My husband NEVER goes to the grocery store with me. I am highly stressed in my job and it’s effecting my health. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. That’s why these threads will always be so split and why it needs to be decided on an individual basis between the family, not one person in the family deciding for everyone. It's just the way nature intended it. I would also hold off on TTC. I think SAHP-ing has to be by mutual agreement. Going to parks and stuff too. KennyRogersWasNotInStarWars its mn. Where you got that she would do it without discussing it, I don't know. Of course you can't just decide to live off his dollar, you both need to provide for your child, if your job is negatively affecting your health then find another one. So SAHM is out but I would like to go part time so I would have more balance in my life. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. To do this he will manipulate your beliefs, he will control your thinking and your decision making and he will manage your behaviors.He will even change how you think about the world and your place in it. I've already said or SAHDs. They get maternity. He takes care of our finances, but that doesn't mean I'm clueless. My husband and I have been married 4 years and have a DS 18months.  I'm 30, he's 35. If being a SAHM has always been your dream, then you should've married someone who was supportive of your dream. Friends may hav… Four reasons why your husband is mean and disrespectful. They breastfeed etc. It cost me £106 a month for my 2.5 year old to go Monday and Friday for 3 hours a time. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. This is page 1 of 22 (This thread has 544 messages.). Ive was a sahm for 2 months and hated it, always worked. When I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husband and I never really sat down to hash out what would happen after she was born. I don’t think either of you are necessarily being unreasonable, you just might find that your visions of family life might not be compatible. As others have said, this will be very expensive for 2 children. Message deleted by MNHQ. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. OP cannot make any decisions alone but if I were her I’d question why he was against part time working if the finances wouldn’t be compromised - that’s very odd. I can’t really advise without knowing detailed figures about both incomes and your outgoings. I really don’t know where to go from here. Yet, he won't let me go easily while I'm crying, begging for a divorce. [Warning added by MNHQ: distressing content], Can’t get my head round what my mother has done, A plea to those who have/will stop sticking to the restrictions, Has covid-19 affected your plans to become pregnant or TTC? I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. No Man Wants To Have Sex With His Mom. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. Numerous times. It’s really a compliment because there are many husbands who don’t want to spend time with their wives. And as noted by the above poster - I presume then you acknowledge when your children go to school at age 5, they’re being raised by someone else - by your definition. We have massive arguments about it. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. Would PT not be a workable compromise? I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. In a nutshell he is pissed I didn't want to quit my job and be a SAHM for Lizzy but I do for our son and so therefore I love our son more and that makes me … One way to be at home more for your toddler is to have another maternity leave of course. Then your children are with a parent more and there's less impact on money.I wouldn't want my partner to go part time tbh. No one comes here and says 'I work fulltime and dp/dh does half the house work'You arent going to see people posting about their totally normal fair home situation. Isn't that what we women have wanted RECOGNISED? I give him his space...but he also gives me mine. A lot of times, when a separation happens, the higher-earning spouse (let’s call him the husband, because in most cases, unfortunately, that’s still true) stops having his paycheck direct deposited into the joint account. I also said part time or one full and another part time. Good luck. He HATES it! I think you have to make the judgement based on your individual family and family needs. Burnout is a real thing and can be a huge obstacle to overcome, prevention is so much better than a cure! Mums usually are at home as they birth the baby. You should make a plan to leave. How about an interesting well paid job instead, like the ones men seem to have? So surely these full time workers give most of it away anywayOP is the main earner and a high stress managerial job. So in that case, yes, the nursery worker is doing the majority of the child rearing. It's no fun to be pregnant or a new parent in a state of uncertainty. I understand you want to spend time with your DD, most people would want that, but equally most people have to work! The ones where you can then later work 15-20 hours to get a bit of pocket money? If your husband doesn't earn enough to … All this adds up to a change in personality for you. Not this time. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). Your marital partner should be your teammate and there is no place for lies in your relationship, even when the truth is harsh and tough. What would you say if your husband wanted to give up work and be a SAHP? He wants all of your time and attention, he wants your praise and adoration and he wants to know that he has total power over you. Who don't understand that marriage is a team, and one who does 50% of the work by staying home, raising a family, attending to the household etc is somehow 'lesser' than a man who does the other 50% by earning.Staying at home is as much if not more so as taxing as 'earning', and I can only presume those that smugly insinuate a SAHM is a bludger, don't have kids and have no idea what it is to be the one at home raising the family.The job is just as valuable as earning actual money. Anonymous: My son is at an intense college and I'd like to send him modest amounts of money because his debit card is practically empty and I don't want him working and getting in over his head academically. I asked him to please tell me what was bothering him then so we can work through it. Can you change job? Hello! Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. That's how it's supposed to be. I am highly stressed in my job and it’s effecting my health. £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. The additional workload will bring a large pay rise. Was either of your parents cold or critical when you were young? Because your husband does want to spend time with you, he may be afraid that if you homeschool you won’t … That parent will be seeing their child for a couple of hours at best on week days. In the interest in fairness...would you let him give up work or go part time? It doesn't have to be all or nothing?Did you enjoy your job before? I have explained this to my husband but he does not want me to leave my job as it is flexible but doesn’t understand the stress and desperation to spend more time with my daughter. Who's right? That is true for the other problems in relationships as well. In no way does that equate to being “raised by someone else”. Would your employer let you reduce to part time but for a few years, and have you costed the impact of the change on your family? He should want to provide for her stay at home. I'm talking babies and toddlers. NOWHERE has the OP suggested she will just quit or force her husband to provide for her (the horror! She won't regret it. I feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversedI thought that! Relationships. Your DH needs to understand that you are suffering, stress is affecting your health and your parenting, and these things unchecked can lead to far bigger problems than smaller cars and less holidays. Let’s talk a little bit about how support gets into place and how long it takes. But unless you have a fantastic job anyway it's not worth it for the sake of keeping £300 out of £1200 a month. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. She sees her mum about 3 hours a day and is with my cousin 10.I've also not said people should not work. Tell him to get a bloody better job. Hello! 6 Stretches To Do First Thing In The Morning, According To Experts. For the sake of 3 years??? Reading some of the threads on mumsnet I’m not surprised a high percentage of women on mumsnet want to be SAHM. To be repulsed at this outcome? He's a doctor in private practice so our finances are fine. These years won't come back. Anyway, no he can’t stop you leaving your job. Savings too, ie less childcare. If your husband doesn’t want to do that and he lets you do all the hard things alone, it means that he doesn’t respect you enough. A lot of times, when a separation happens, the higher-earning spouse (let’s call him the husband, because in most cases, unfortunately, that’s still true) stops having his paycheck direct deposited into the joint account. What do you do? What does that even mean? He can be so petty. So instead of lying on the sofa watching Tele and sleeping. I'd also leave having DC2 until you are both well established in new roles and a new economic dynamic. Once the child turns 3 they get some hours funded. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. Working Spouse: That may have been true when they were very little but now, if anything, they'll do … What does sahm, being norm years ago have to do with anything. It's expensive to go to work! I would guess she gets to keep more than 300. Since having my daughter I have want to be a sahm or part time. Wellness. But it's a false narrative and irrelevant.Didnt say she did. Not in my makeup. Oh no, no one cares for timeless common sense anymore, when they can devalue the contribution a SAHM gives. I must admit I would be v unhappy if my partner unilaterally decided to make me the only breadwinner and solely responsible for the financials. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). For our daughter, it meant she would not get to go to her favorite place. *So it's a game of dibs?Who says they are going to be sahp, first wins?*Huh? My husband works crazy hard hours so that I can be a SAHM, and when he isn't working he wants to take a break. *I actually feel sorry for people who think a mother doesn't have the right to stay at home. Then the mum could work 15-20 hi ours a week and keep a wage. * i feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversed*The difference with the sexes being reversed though is that DH isn’t actually carrying a baby for nine months, giving birth and then breastfeeding all whilst trying to conceive another one and hold down a high powered job with very long hours - It’s not the same. 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